Run away, now Do I need help? They go through all the motions but something is always missing and we feel it but cant understand just how deep it goes. Taking out a second mortgage on your home without your knowledge, Not paying IRS taxes, resulting in your possible confinement in jail, Expecting you to pay for everything while they save their own money for themselves, Forcing you to get all the utilities and insurances in your name so youll have to pay for them all, Frequent, unwanted deliveries of gifts, cards, and flowers, Showing up at your place of employment or favorite hangout, Spreading rumors or publishing personal information about you on social media, Using social media to follow and friend your social media followers and friends in order to keep an eye on you, Installing spyware on your computer or cell phone, Finding out about you by using public records or online search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers, Using technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go, Threatening to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets, My top resources for narcissistic abuse recovery, Strategies to overpower your addiction to the narcissist. Sometimes its best to cut ties with a narcissist, especially if theyre abusive. This is by far the best article u have ever read, I was married 13 years total of 20 years with my now ex. He doesnt bother me. Everything you said I lived trough. Its another independent center of integrative neural activity. I was in a relationship for a little over 2 years with a Narcissist. I am feeling the lesson of being a better mom, sober, non assuming person when i know the worstis yet to come. Because the story he tells is consistent with his own, he is content to mount and orchestrate smear campaigns. 7. I need to stop and leave this alone for my own sanity. First, you need to understand their motivations. i have verbally, physically, stole, bashed his family and critsized him. I call him the Repeat Offender. While this may not be feasible for the short-term, if you can, consider separating yourself from the narcissist as much as possible. My ex friend and neighbour is a total narc, she has tried to lose me my job, house, get me arrested for fraud, lose me my friends, has accused her ex husband of rape, assault and stalking. There was an error submitting your subscription. I have an appointment with an attorney to have her removed from my home. He was forging my name on checks, I now owe $94k to IRS. Giving gifts to someone who is narcissistic makes them feel good about themselves and allows them to maintain a relationship with the giver. Please put a disclaimer that just because someone had some of these characteristics, it doesnt make them a narcissist. How to Get Your Stuff Back After a Narcissist Steals It Makes me sick to think I could be that stupid. He would accuse me of cheating, and talking to other men. A narcissist is a person who is excessively self-centered and obsessed with themselves. I really need to know how and if they are spying on me. I could be wrong, of course, but I figured out or caught all of the other typical narcissist behaviors you mention. He talked about what a wonderful future wed have, our potential children and that they would have a great life, that we would have a nice family together.